An amazing fact of human nature is that we can see other peoples behaviours more clearly than our own. That is why we need help from others to change.
The best person to help is someone who is outside you circle and is not involved with your life. They will see the issues more clearly. Counsellors and consultant can be very helpful because they are outside our world and have a different perspective. I used to say they were objsctive but npw I say a different perspecitve.
They can help us find the triggers and rewards for habits and help us explore ways to replace one habot with another. These people do not need to be professionals but have great skill in listening. I have found that if I listen carefully enough the person will tell me the solution. I then have to propose it to them and see their reaction. They may not accept it right away but with my help they will start to change.
I have a golf coach who works with me that way and has been very helpful is correcting my habits. He is very patient with me. So why am I not a better golfer? I am not willing to spend the 10,000 hours of practice. An example of a thought habit is how I think my swing should feel. The thought results in an "outside in swing." He has worked long and hard to change that thought habit. However the habit creeps back regularly and I need to go back to the fundementals.
Many of our thought habits are really quite ingrained in us. We need to go back to the fundementals regularly.
What are your thoughts habits that you cling to tenaciously which you know are not helpful?