Cause of Anti-social Behavior
When I exhibit anti-social behavior, I do it because I am feeling discouraged. I have low self esteem. However I am completely in control of my own self esteem. How can you say that, Jim, what about all these terrible things that happen to me? It is all a matter of choice.
When I am playing golf and I make a bad shot, I have a choice on how react. I can berate myself and get down on how stupid I am. Or I can look at it a lesson to be learned about my game. By looking at it a lesson from life, I find it more encouraging. I can look at the positive of how lucky I am to be able to be out here. There are lots of great things about being out on the golf course.
Recently I played with Jack and he made a bad shot and he was berating himself loudly. I said to him don't give my friend such a hard time. He laughed and it broke the tension.
Watch That Inner Voice
Try to teach your critic to be more encouraging. Remember life is too serious to take seriously.