Accepting Myself Deeply and Completely

One of the challenges we all face is accepting our imperfections. I have just spent two weeks trying to help out with a friend who is facing some real life challenges.  However I know that I made some mistakes in the process and I keep second guessing myself.  I have to be

Setting Positive Goals

"I am going to lose weight," "I am going to quit smoking,"    Why don't these resolutions work?   I think our unconcsious does not recognize negatives because it sees things as images.  The only images these thought evoke are images of w

Who Will I Be When I Grow Up?

Dreams are problem solving metaphors.  Nightmares are unacceptable solutions.   Alfred Adler proposed these ideas as an explanation of the purpose of dreams. Recently I have been having dreams that leave me with a feeling of being lost.  One deals with being on the t

6 Books I Enjoyed Recently

Here is a list of some books I have enjoyed recently.  Most are non-fiction. 1.  Outliers by Malcolm Gradwell – A great book about way some people stand out from the crowd.  The reasons are very surprizing.  Q&A with Gladwell 2.  Drive by Dan Pi

6 Books I Have Enjoyed

Here is a list of some books I have enjoyed recently.  Most are non-fiction. 1.  Outliers by Malcolm Gradwell – A great book about way some people stand out from the crowd.  The reasons are very surprizing.  Q&A with Gladwell 2.  Drive by Dan Pi

Be Curious and Understand Context – Ask Questions

Do you know the context for the work you are doing?   How does it fit in the great scheme of things?   I am often amazed how little we appreciate how the projects we are doing fit with the business.  Example – Value of Outsourcing An interesting personal exampl

Importance For A CEO Or Anyone To Manage Your Own Psychology

Just read a great blog by Managing Your Own Psychology by Ben Horowitz, cofounder and General Partner of the venture capital firm Andreessen Horowitz about getting the important 20% right as opposed to getting everything right.   Find out what WFIO

Importance of Sharing What Is Important

We all have many things we leave unsaid.  In writing blogs, I take substantial risk of being misunderstood and criticized.  Expressing ourselves is always a risk.  In a essay, called Sister Outsider,  Audrey Lord, poet and activist, shortly after she had been d

The Best Way To Use The Last Five Minutes Of A Day

Reflecting on the days activity with three questions:  How? What? Who? Every day, just before finishing work, save a few minutes to reflect about what happened today. Look at your calendar and compare what actually happened — the meetings you attended, the work you got done, the

Changing Your Point of View

Many times I find myself trying to explain something saying that I believe that is very simple and often it is viewed as more complex.  I was in a conversation with Graham last night as we were reviewing some stored procedures created a couple of years ago and he said "Jim